And we have now come to the conclusion of this series and this one was saved for last for a few reasons. One being, this was the most significant one. This experience lasted the longest out of the three, actually ever. The most complicated story but also the one I am fond of reflecting back on.
*warning this one is really long, I've tried my best to sum it up*
*warning this one is really long, I've tried my best to sum it up*
The Third Guy: taught me about God's timing and my relationship with Him.
This happened about three years ago, long time I know. We met through our youth group, he was new and obviously stood out the most. As I attend a Filipino dominated church, it is easy to be picked out when you're not Filipino. We met through mutual friends since we both had gotten lifts home from the same person, that's where we started talking. Soon enough we began to talk outside of the car rides home. At the time he was attending YD Engage while I was interning in YD Relive (junior high), so we never actually were in the same department on Friday nights. However this didn't stop us.
Eventually we exchanged numbers and then added each other on facebook. This was where our communication peaked. Without fail, we talked everyday even if it was for a good half an hour to an hour. We always found a way to say 'good morning' and 'good night' to each other. No feelings had sprung up yet but the friendship did. Just like when you meet someone for the first time, they become one of those people you just want to get to know better. He was one of those people to me. Facebook was our main source of communication until we used Skype. Not only were we talking to each other everyday but most days we would see each other as well. This honestly was awesome, it was fun and it enabled for trust to be established between the two of us.
One night it was put out there, we both liked each other. I wasn't completely there yet but he was, eventually I just admitted it to myself and to him that I liked him. This was the first time I had ever liked someone this much or even liked someone for that matter. Our communication hardly ceased to fail, although there were times of misunderstandings and what not. Many moments of kiligs, infatuation, times where I would be smiling out of no where just thinking about him. We grew together in God. Shared our devotions, prayed for each other, keep each other accountable and that was all great. Until the communication started to wear off. About three months into me starting senior high school, things got rough. We talked less and bitterness was arising. There were misunderstandings, miscommunication, we just missed clarity.
Then one night, we talked in person after youth and agreed to take the following week to really pray and meditate if we should keep going with this. A week went by and I was heartbroken by what God had told me. I didn't want to let go, I didn't want to lose what we had or worse lose the friendship but it had to be done. Again, the Friday after, we sat and talked. Both of us received the same thing, we needed to put this to an end. We realised that this time wasn't the right time for us to keep going and although we grew together, we still had more development and growth individually. That was hard. It was almost like a break up. When you think about it, it's hard to stop talking as much to someone when you've had endless and consistent communication for seven months. It was the aftermath of all this that had really tested us.
Really, it was hard to get things at peace between the two of us. I probably showed more signs that I was struggling to get over him, not so sure about him but I admit I was pretty bitter. However, as time went by, as I begun to really dig back into the love of God .. just one day I had clarity. That one day, I had finally let go and was moving on with my life. Through all the emotions, conversations, sweet moments, silence, arguments, it taught me so much. God's timing is perfect and there is always a place and time for everything. What we went through was timing, perfect for what we were to face in the future. How we communicated should be the same, or even better, as how I would talk to God. The importance of focusing on yourself before chasing another person is so crucial. I cannot express enough how important it is to become all that you can be before you step into any relationship.
The phrase of: 'I found my other half' or calling that special person your 'other half.' Get rid of that mentality. To give your all to someone, you gotta be whole. When two become one, it's not two halves that make a whole. It is two wholes coming together. When you both come under God, you become weaved together like a cord of three strands (Ecclesiastes 4:12). That cord of three strands, is unbreakable.
Eventually we exchanged numbers and then added each other on facebook. This was where our communication peaked. Without fail, we talked everyday even if it was for a good half an hour to an hour. We always found a way to say 'good morning' and 'good night' to each other. No feelings had sprung up yet but the friendship did. Just like when you meet someone for the first time, they become one of those people you just want to get to know better. He was one of those people to me. Facebook was our main source of communication until we used Skype. Not only were we talking to each other everyday but most days we would see each other as well. This honestly was awesome, it was fun and it enabled for trust to be established between the two of us.
One night it was put out there, we both liked each other. I wasn't completely there yet but he was, eventually I just admitted it to myself and to him that I liked him. This was the first time I had ever liked someone this much or even liked someone for that matter. Our communication hardly ceased to fail, although there were times of misunderstandings and what not. Many moments of kiligs, infatuation, times where I would be smiling out of no where just thinking about him. We grew together in God. Shared our devotions, prayed for each other, keep each other accountable and that was all great. Until the communication started to wear off. About three months into me starting senior high school, things got rough. We talked less and bitterness was arising. There were misunderstandings, miscommunication, we just missed clarity.
Then one night, we talked in person after youth and agreed to take the following week to really pray and meditate if we should keep going with this. A week went by and I was heartbroken by what God had told me. I didn't want to let go, I didn't want to lose what we had or worse lose the friendship but it had to be done. Again, the Friday after, we sat and talked. Both of us received the same thing, we needed to put this to an end. We realised that this time wasn't the right time for us to keep going and although we grew together, we still had more development and growth individually. That was hard. It was almost like a break up. When you think about it, it's hard to stop talking as much to someone when you've had endless and consistent communication for seven months. It was the aftermath of all this that had really tested us.
Really, it was hard to get things at peace between the two of us. I probably showed more signs that I was struggling to get over him, not so sure about him but I admit I was pretty bitter. However, as time went by, as I begun to really dig back into the love of God .. just one day I had clarity. That one day, I had finally let go and was moving on with my life. Through all the emotions, conversations, sweet moments, silence, arguments, it taught me so much. God's timing is perfect and there is always a place and time for everything. What we went through was timing, perfect for what we were to face in the future. How we communicated should be the same, or even better, as how I would talk to God. The importance of focusing on yourself before chasing another person is so crucial. I cannot express enough how important it is to become all that you can be before you step into any relationship.
The phrase of: 'I found my other half' or calling that special person your 'other half.' Get rid of that mentality. To give your all to someone, you gotta be whole. When two become one, it's not two halves that make a whole. It is two wholes coming together. When you both come under God, you become weaved together like a cord of three strands (Ecclesiastes 4:12). That cord of three strands, is unbreakable.